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205 – The Parenting Puzzle

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If you are a parent, single or married, you are probably like a person trying to put together a 5,000 piece puzzle. You are laboring at it regularly. You are trying hard. You are observant to some extent, but you are constantly being distracted. I want to remind you that the parenting puzzle is for those who will seek, find, and do God’s plan for their and their children’s lives. You need the help of the Master puzzle fitter to fit the pieces of the puzzle together and contribute fruitfully to the making of some special lives that God has placed in your charge. The psalmist in Ps. 127 puts it like this, (Ps. 127:1 NLT) Unless the Lord builds a house, the work of the builders is wasted. That is why it is vital to understand how God wants parenting done. He furnishes the material, the young ones He creates as He brings partners together for love. God is the original home builder, and He alone knows how to put homes together with parents and children in ways that will work to their mutual benefit.

To succeed as a parent you must accept the plans of God for you to help construct a healthy life. God expects parents to build into their children healthy attributes, healthy personalities, healthy characters and values. The Apostle Paul wrote to the Corinthian Christians about building the church of God. He said, (1 Cor. 3:10 NIV) By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as a wise builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should build with care. I want to take that last phrase and help us see that we need to be careful how we go about building up a young life. You cannot build a church, a home, or a life without a plan. We need to set realistic goals for our parenting experience and for our children. As they mature they need to cooperate in making those goals their personal ones. Parents need to schedule their kids’ lives with care. We let little league, youth football, cheerleading, gymnastics, soccer, social groups, school activities, the boss at work, even the church determine our schedules and those of our kids. Instead we need to decide what we want our child(ren) to look like in the future and build their lives in that direction. God has placed a natural bent in each one in the direction He wants them to go, and we need to construct their lives in ways that will help them find that.

To succeed as a parent you must appropriate the resources God provides. God promises to give us he resources we need for all that He calls on us to do. (Phil. 4:19 MSG) You can be sure that God will take care of everything you need, his generosity exceeding even yours in the glory that pours from Jesus. God will give you everything you need to parent the child(ren) He has given to you. He would not have given you responsibility for them without providing you with all you needed. The sooner we realize that the only one who is competent to parent our children is God through Christ, the better off we will be. We struggle and scramble the puzzle parts up because we are trying in our own strength. The ability comes from God in Christ. (2 Cor. 4:7 NIV) But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. All the ability we have to succeed in anything comes from God. If you want to be a better parent, appropriate God’s resources and parent His way!

To succeed as a parent you must award compassion to your kids like God does to you. (1 Jn. 4:19 NIV) We love because he first loved us. Your capacity to love your kids comes from God. He has already shown us how to love. He also is forgiving and patient with us. (Eph. 4:32 NIV) Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. We need to learn to love our children as God loves us in Christ. We also need to forgive them as God forgives us. He is, after all, our heavenly Father who is teaching us how to parent by being the incredibly perfect parent He is. God knows all about us and yet loves and accepts us. We need to do the same for our children, even when they stub their toe, break a rule, or act imperfectly because they are imperfect.

To succeed as a parent you must allow the Spirit of God to produce the fruit of self-control in your life. Parents fail in disciplinary action because they get out of control. If we want a controlled chid, we need to be under the control of God’s Spirit. You cannot fool your kids. If you are frazzled, you will raise frazzled kids. If you are ruled by God’s Spirit and under His control, you will have peace and exhibit a peaceful style of life to your child(ren). Homes should be places where parents under control reflect the love and grace of Christ. There should be serious times and fun times in a stable home. Be positive with your kids because you are at peace with God and yourself. That will create an atmosphere for healthy kid growth! Because you have a healthy self-esteem, you will build that kind of health into those under your stewardship and discipline.

God never changes, nor do His pieces of the parenting puzzle. Get your cue from the One who placed your precious ones in your home!

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